What do you truly want?

Hi Everyone! A big welcome to all the new readers!


I recently asked a question of a wonderful group of art quilters on Facebook called Art Quilts 101.  I wanted to know what they truly wanted to be working on, and what was preventing them from making it.  Too often I hear from my students that they love fiber art or art quilting, and they have lots of ideas for what they want to make, but somehow it doesn’t happen.

Life does instead.

So here’s what is preventing them:

* time

* kids/family/husbands

* space constraints

* other commitments/responsibilities

* getting started/deciding what to do

* UFO’s

* lack of skills

* lack of confidence

* right tools

My left brained logical mind likes to break things down, so I can come up with a solution with my more creative right brain.

So here goes:

List A has reasons that we can all do something about by learning from a teacher or taking a class of some kind


  • Skills
  • Using right tools

List B has reasons that are preventing us that we have made up.


  • time
  • kids/family/husbands
  • space
  • other commitments
  • getting started/ making decisions
  • lack of confidence
  • using UFO’s as an excuse

Now when I say we made them up, it doesn’t mean they aren’t real or don’t exist.  The part we made up is the idea that we use them as an excuse for not doing what we say we really want to do.  And I’m not saying I have all the answers either!

But here’s what I do know:

We can decide from a conscious place what is important to us, and make it a priority in our lives.  So the B list is actually good news, because we have the power to choose our way of thinking about every thing on that list.

At this point, you might want to jot down in a journal a few things on your list of important projects .  Then write down next to it WHY  it is important to you.  Unless you decide why it’s important to YOU, all the other things on list B will seem more important and urgent.  Right?

Here’s an inspiring example from a friend and one of my coaches, Lesley Riley.  She made most of her art work on her bed because she had no other space, and by the way she and her husband had 6 kids.  She now has umpteen grand kids, a flourishing art career, and has written and published many books.  You can see her work on http://lesleyriley.com/.  Lesley made her art a priority and didn’t make all the other stuff in her very busy life into a reason why she couldn’t.  Lesley continues to inspire me, and I hope she will inspire you too!


Now here’s the other part about list B.  You can’t do this by yourself.  You will need support.  From your family, from other art groups, from your teachers, from your whatever helps you remember.  It’s way too easy to get distracted or side tracked.  This I know for myself! I have been working myself with not only Lesley, but also 2 other coaches.  They are a BIG reason why I have gotten out of  my own way, and my limiting beliefs about myself.  So you know I believe in the power of effective coaching, and that’s why I began coaching art quilters.  If you feel you need help with your B list, just shoot me an email and I will be happy to talk with you about how coaching can make a difference for you.

Last week I had a blast at Bernina World of Sewing in Raleigh. Demo-ing on the new BERNINA 770 QE. Take a look:

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And the students painting with fabric paint on their morning glories.  I’m so proud of them for getting past their limiting beliefs about how they can’t paint!!




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17001 Searstone Dr, Cary, NC 27513
(877) 841-2758

This show will be up from June 4-Aug. 4.




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Some of you expressed interest in learning online how to make a 3-D Textile painting like I taught on Quilting Arts TV.



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Susan and I on set

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Roxane is a full time studio textile artist, teacher, and author, with two girls, who are both growing up too fast!  She recently appeared on Quilting Arts TV, and has been accepted to teach in Houston.  She is also a BERNINA ambassador. Her work is in several private collections and she loves doing custom commissions.  For more info go to http://roxanelessa.com.

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2 thoughts on “What do you truly want?

  1. Your question about what I want to do and what’s keeping me from doing it: your answer was that we are using it as a excuse. All of us don’t have supportive husbands who appreciate our talents. I have now decided to give my husband a list of things I prefer to do instead of allowing him to use my time. He doesn’t like it because he hates change. Taking charge of my time is hard on my spoiled husband, but he will understand eventually. Thanks for making me question my use of time,

    1. Mathilda, I didn’t mean to sound harsh, like we are all a bunch of excuse makers, and believe me, I have still have “excuses” I need to break through, too!! But good for you for giving yourself the gift of creative time for yourself. Maybe if he understood that it feeds your need to be creative (and as a result you will be in a better mood :)), he will be more willing to allow some changes. Thanks for reading, and if you know someone who would benefit, please forward this post to them!

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